Divorce is a difficult transition for all parties involved, but it's most especially so for the children of the separating couple. Texas couples who have been through divorce, or who are facing it now, understand that child custody can be at least as complicated as the divorce itself. Many experts agree, however, that maintaining respectful lines of communication and a solid grounding of consistency can help families survive a difficult time.
For situations in which child custody is split between two parents, it may be especially helpful to ensure that rewards and consequences are acknowledged by each spouse. While it may be beneficial for individual parents to ascribe their own rules and consequences to behavior, it is considered equally important to recognize the child's achievements and provide positive reinforcement for accolades. Consistency is the name of the game when it comes to a divorce situation, according to many experts.
It is often difficult for separated spouses to "get along" even in front of their children, but the evidence seems to point to the idea that if couples are respectful and civil to one another in their interactions, the children learn from this example. It seems to be important to maintain a routine to which children can acclimatize, and of course, good behavior modeled by both parents can be a positive model to follow. Finally, mitigating one's own negative responses to divorce may be critical in helping a child get used to the new arrangement of his or her life.
It has been said that children are the future, and for couples facing child custody complications, the weight of that statement can be even heavier. Divorce requires a fundamental rethinking of the family unit, and it isn't always easy to go that road alone. Texas residents facing divorce may benefit from seeking outside advice on how to smooth the road of child custody both in a legal and emotional capacity. The payoff for the children of separated unions is inestimable.
Source: Huffington Post, "5 Tips for Co-Parenting After Divorce," Allison Pescosolido, M.A, May 16, 2013