When a person in Texas loses a loved one, he or she may pass through various stages of grief, including shock, denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. A healthy person passes in and out of these phases until ultimately reaching the point where he or she is ready to let go of the past and build a hopeful future. Counselors have discovered that these stages occur similarly when a couple goes through divorce issues. The difficulty is that the spouses seldom experience the same stages simultaneously.
Typically, the spouse who initiates the divorce considers his or her options for some time before presenting the idea to the partner. He or she may do this in a contemplative manner, pondering the alternatives. A spouse going through this contemplative phase may appear peaceful, even happy, to the partner. This is why the partner may be shocked when the topic of divorce is finally introduced.
What may be even more upsetting is the behavior of the person initiating the divorce. Since he or she may have already passed through the first stages of grief, there may be little display of emotion. Those emotions may have already been dealt with, and the other partner may not understand the seeming indifference of the initiator. The initiator may already have reached the stages of acceptance and rebuilding while the other partner is just entering the periods of shock and anger.
Those dealing with divorce issues will experience many emotions at various times, and psychologists suggest that people move in and out of those stages of grief throughout the process. This is why many who are going through a divorce in Texas rely on their attorneys for help. An attorney with experience in family law can alleviate some of the stress that is natural in difficult circumstances and ensure that one is well protected when he or she is ready for the final phases of acceptance and rebuilding.
Source: The Huffington Post, "Beware Of The Calm Before The Stormy 7 Stages Of Divorce", Dr. Jamie Williamson, Oct. 25, 2016